Diaries of Disappointment (From a daughter's heart)

It has been 3 days of 'kind of' no talking/calls from home. Apparently, Shikha's mother (my best friend), who speaks to her daughter thrice everyday, does not 'feel like' talking to her. 

Why?

Well! I guess many of us girls, in marriageable age and no boyfriend, would be able to relate to it. 

All it takes is a week's time, she shared. About 7 days before, a friend of her mother shared the bio-data of son of an acquaintance which on papers it looked pretty neat. Parents exchanged words and considered it appropriate that the bachelors may go ahead and talk. So Shikha spoke to the guy for about 20 minutes and shared with him that she would like them to take some time to know each other and then decide. The guy agreed that though his parents are in a little hurry, he would also like them to take some time. The very next day, Shikha's mother gets a call that the guy has said yes for the proposal.

I know,  '_ _ _!'

A couple of days later, before their parents intend to meet, Shikha meets the guy says she is not negative about the whole thing but would like to meet guy a couple of times more. 

Now their parents were due to meet next day. But apparently, during the day the guy found another girl, good enough to be the empress of his kingdom and consequently, did not meet my friend's parents which is absolutely fine except the fact that they did not have the courtesy to call and share their cancellation far from obliging to come given that the girl's whole family were all dressed and prepared with a menu of sweets and snacks they wanted to greet the king with. 

What it translates into for the Shikha is an abandonment of calls from home for a  few days now because it was her who demanded a few more days/meetings and while she waits to turn things to normalcy. she wonders:

Logically, even if she would have said yes, her family would not have because they hardly knew them and they would have liked to what they call 'enquire'.

Even if not that, had she demanded not days but even one more meeting, the guy would have anyway met another girl and said yes.

But then who cares, at all!, we have a 'bakra' to blame. So,lets do it!, no matter how baseless it may be. So what if we have NEVER met the family, we COULD HAVE and it COULD have turned out well.

As a writer, nothing more bothers me about the whole incident than the fact,

that for one guy, who they hardly know, they are expressing all aggression on her daughter who demands nothing but time to say yes/no for a life changing decision. 

That she seeks more from a marriage that her parents ever did, is not considerable. 

That, no matter how many girls a guy may say no for, only a girls NO is under question, as if she is so worthless! 

That they have considered NOT 1% probability that something could be fishy given that they were such a hurry. NOT 1, seriously? or may be it was worth a life!

Would we ever be able to tell our daughters 'Do what you want!' ,would we ever be able to tell them that 'any guy you say yes to would be lucky!', or that 'take as much time you want, it is YOUR decision' , or, 'it is okay to be confused', or, 'it was just a guy, come on!, he wasn't probably the best!' and MEAN it! Somehow, we end up telling them that they are not 'son'. 

It is sad that though we think we have come far, we are actually quite where we started!

Disappointing, isn't it!